Last week some online dating dude from Hoboken emailed me. I wrote him back and said I'd call him in a couple of days to set up a drink or whatevs. A couple of days went by because I've been busy. What exactly I've been doing--and that could be being busy silently panicking while on the sofa watching t.v.--is entirely up to me, I believe. However, last night I received the same email from him. Like a reminder. Not an additional one, not a different note, but the same note. As if to say, "You didn't call me in a couple of days. Instead of sending you a new email to say 'Hey I didn't hear from you' I am going to send you the same email, and act as if that's ok, like perhaps you didn't get it perhaps it was an accident, even though you did get it, because you responded and said you'd call. Which you didn't."
Now, I'm highly annoyed. Even if it is in spite of myself. Do I have the right to be annoyed, or is it pretty simple math that no one gets out of here alive where I'm concerned?
If anyone knows of a big mountain somewhere in which I can climb to the very top and scream "FUCK OFF!!!!!!!!" please advise. If I do that from the top of this observation deck, I'll be hauled away in handcuffs. Maybe it's not a bad idea. At least there I'll be making license plates, and I won't be cutting scrap paper into 4x6 sheets because "Notepads are expensive."
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I'm not posting until I get some answers to my question. Don't act like you didn't all read this.
No, I think you're right. As a dude if some gal didn't call when she said she'd call I'd take it as a hint. After all, don't men and women both tell someone they'll call them but don't rather than just tell them to "get lost?"
And in the off chance she truly did mean to call but just forgot, then she couldn't have thought too highly of me in the first place if I'm that forgettable.
Blackmailing us???
but i was going to call.
even tho this fucker didn't even have a picture posted.
but he hit [RESEND] anyway.
some friggin' nerve.
You haven't actually met this guy, right? I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. He may have been reading it over, just to wallow in anticipation a bit, and then sent it again on accident. A bunch of different scenarios may have gone down. I'd at least call and see what he sounds like on the phone.
blackmail is a form of control. i am not in control of most of my life right now, so yes, i will abuse this power.
Would it have killed him to write a new e-mail instead of resending the previous? No.
Eh... sounds passive-aggressive to me.
I don't know, men get away with this. "Hey, I'll call you" and a week later he just might.
why is it different for woman? Are we supposed call in exactly two days like we promised? or act like men and wait a week, just because?
all i have to say is, "notepads are expensive."
Women thing emotionally.
Men think logically.
Find a middle ground and you'll do alright.
You know why he sent a reminder? Because he wanted to remind you. Just because he didn't say "Hey I didn't hear from you!" doesn't mean he didn't feel that way.
Absolutely nothing to be upset about. Logically speaking of course.
thanks.
not upset. especially about someone whom i've never met. the word is: annoyed.
different.
men do NOT think logically. newblue, if you replace that word with "idiotically" and "emotionally" with "sensibly", i'd concur with you statement.
he should have written a new email.
i replied with a "yes, gotcha. i've been too busy to call you, sorry. what's your schedule like this week" type of deal. that way he knows that i know that we both know he's annoying. i deserve nothing less than annoying. i'm sure we'll make a great couple. me yelling at him all the time and all. people will always invite us over.
dad has me make scrap paper notepads here at work...does that make him cheap?
dad has me make scrap paper notepads here at work...does that make him cheap?
Thank you for proving my point Liz.
Just because he didn't dress up a follow up to a woman's liking doesn't mean he's totally void of emotion.
He was simply following up.
But because it didn't seem like he was generally interested or intriged as to WHY a Anne hadn't responded? It's really nothing to get annoyed at.
And Anne's response is fine.
Whipcreamy, you are wasting paper if you write everything twice!
No photo and he sent the same message two times? You are rolling the dice on this guy.
No photo and you still called him? You've got guts Toucan. I've had enough bad experiences to never go that route again, including going to the King Tut exbibit with a gal who didn't have a picture and turned out to be a real, live mummy.
he's a tool because he wrote back and didn't acknowledge that he was busted for sending the email 2x.
i'm going out for a drink with him on thursday at 6.30.
at 7.00 i will be with some girlfriends tearing him apart.
please, creepy. it's a sexist world. dudes never post their pictures.
Dude from Hoboken? Adam Wade?
well then you date him, newblue because anne's annoyed.
(i say this all in good fun--not looking for a blog fight).
i'd never blow up mr. wade's spot in this kind of public forum, matt.
i'd call him obese and stuff, but that's different.
I would date him Liz, but he doesn't know why I'm angry.
HE SHOULD KNOW!
notepads are expensive
It's probably Lou. And fuckin' A notepads are expensive.
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